When there is a conflict between two person's, it is derived from being hurt emotionally! Our emotional needs must be met in all relationships. When boundaries are crossed, or desires unmet, then there is a conflict. Remember to manage the conflict, you must share how you feel when your partner does not meet your need/needs. Healthy discussions will help to resolve the conflict. Join us in learning the Gottman method, which will teach you how to manage your conflicts in a healthy manor.

Posted on: Sunday, December 11, 2016

Through research, John Gottman has discovered that, the foundation of happy marriages is, how well the couple know ch other's world, emotionally, mentally and their fears and failures.  Strengthen your friendship ith your partner, starting today, even if you are not in a distressed relationship, growing in your friendship I'll further  strengthen your relationship.

Posted on: Sunday, October 9, 2016

Some couples are not able to reach a desired healthy resolution because they are unable to accept influence from their partner. Accepting influence is not giving in, but they yield to the advice of the other for the sake of managing the conflict.


Posted on: Monday, September 5, 2016

When we find ourselves emotionally flooded, we need to calm down. I have developed a method for doing this:


P: pause: Identify what emotion you am experiencing, connect it to a reason, remember to make sure you have facts to support your reason for what you are experiencing.

P: process: Identify exactly what is causing you to feel the emotion you are experiencing.

O: options: Seek ways to resolve the causation for your emotional flooding.

Remember the goal of using this method is, RESOLUTION of the cause.

Posted on: Wednesday, August 31, 2016

One reason why couples are not able to manage their conflicts is due to emotional flooding. This takes place when the amygdala is over excited with information that there is a threat, whether physically or emotionally. I will not only teach what happens to the brain-anxiety, but how to manage it to a healthy resolution!

Posted on: Monday, August 8, 2016

When we are in a conflict with our partner, it is due to emotional stressors, someone is not receiving what they need, or expect. To manage the conflict to a desired end, please do not use criticism, contempt, defensiveness, or stonewalling, (ignoring the speaker, and not turning towards them), not listening to them. Always allow each other the opportunity to express what they are feeling and what is causing it, and what they need from their partner.

Posted on: Thursday, May 26, 2016

Welcome to our new website, please browse around and let us know if you have any questions.

Posted on: Monday, May 23, 2016

Gottman Approach to Marriage Therapy

Learn About the Gottman Method

Dr.'s John and Julie Gottman have developed tools to take your marriage or your relationship with your partner from VOW to WOW! John has been studying what makes happy marriages happy. He discovered, it is not so much how you manage conflicts, but how you interact with each other on a daily basis. Join us for this one day seminar, it will revolutionize your marriage or relationship with your partner.

  • Help restore trust
  • Create a safe place for discussions
  • Help develop a path to healing
  • and more!


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